Win a Trip To Japan for Two in Every MamyPoko Purchase!

Lazada is still on sale! There’s still time to make your purchases online to avoid the traffic rush. Just visit Lazada.com.ph to check their items. Note that this link contains my affiliate ID and I may be receiving commissions from purchases using my affiliate link. Don’t worry, you won’t be charged extra by using it.

On that note, if you have babies or have friends and/or relatives with babies, one of the best thing to give their kiddos would be diapers. Trust me, it is a really big help for mommas to receive diapers for their kids.🙂 Check out MamyPoko’s sale items at Lazada. And do you know that MamyPoko has an ongoing promo? For every purchase of MamyPoko diapers, you get a chance to win a trip for two to Japan. Isn’t that cool?🙂

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Check out the details of the promo:

PROMO DURATION: November 7 – December 31, 2016
Deadline of entry submission: December 31, 2016, 11:59PM
ELIGIBILITY: All Lazada Philippines customers residing in the Philippines are qualified to join.

PROMO MECHANICS:

  • Promo Period: November 7 – December 31, 2016
  • Promo is open to all Lazada customers residing in the Philippines who purchase from the official Mamy Poko Shop and will enter the code “FLYTOJAPAN” upon check out.
  • Qualified customers will get a chance to win two roundtrip flights from Manila to Japan (up to Php 150,000 in value)
  • One successful Lazada order is equivalent to 1 e-raffle entry.
  • Qualified customers can generate as many e-raffle entries as they can, as long as the promo code is entered upon placing the order
  • Voucher can be used for any product except those marked “Voucher Not Applicable On This Item”

TO JOIN THE PROMO:

PRIZE:

  • Roundtrip flights for two (2) from Manila to Japan (up to Php 150,000 value)
  • Terms and Conditions
    • All travel is subject to availability at the time of booking, with travel period from February 1, 2017 to June 30, 2017
    • Airline: Cebu Pacific
    • Roundtrip Ticket (MNL -TKY -MNL)
    • 3D2N Hotel Accommodation
    • Pocket money

MECHANICS OF THE RAFFLE DRAW:

  • The winners will be selected at random on January 10, 2016 at 5PM, at the main office of Lazada Philippines. The raffle draw will be done electronically through the RANDOM.ORG program
  • The winners will be informed through registered mail and contact number and will be announced via Lazada social media accounts (Facebook, Instagram and Twitter)
  • Lazada, Federated Distributors & Unicharm employees and their relatives up to the 2nd degree of consanguinity or affinity are excluded from participating in this promo.
  • Draw venue is at the 23rd floor Net Park 5th Avenue Bonifacio Global City, Taguig City

TERMS AND CONDITIONS:

  • By joining this promo, a customer confirms that he or she has read, understood and agreed to the promo mechanics, including but not limited to its terms and conditions.
  • Cancelled orders will be automatically disqualified from the raffle draw.
  • Prize is transferrable but not convertible to cash, and only consists of what is listed above.
  • Lazada will get in touch with the winner via registered mail within 7 days upon raffle draw
  • The winner can redeem the prize within 60 days from receipt of registered mail. If the winner fails to claim the prize within the redemption period, the winner forfeits his/her claim to the prize with prior DTI approval. Lazada will have a list of buffer winners in the event that a winner becomes disqualified.
  • When claiming the prize, the winner needs to present at least One (1) Valid ID. Lazada has the right to ask for another ID if deemed necessary.
  • In case of a winner’s representative claiming the prize, an authorization letter coming from the winner must be presented together with the winner’s valid ID and the representative’s valid ID. The winner’s signature in the ID and the authorization letter presented must be the same. The Authorization letter presented must be the same. The authorization letter must state the full name of the representative claiming the prize on the winner’s behalf
  • Winner agrees to participate in publicity marketing campaigns.

 

Lazada Philippines Wraps Up Online Revolution with a 6-day Grand Christmas Sale

06 December 2016, Philippines –  The country’s largest online one-stop shopping and selling destination, Lazada Philippines, is set to culminate its Online Revolution campaign with a bang with its Grand Christmas Sale, which is slated to happen this December 7-12.

With the success of the ongoing and highly in-demand Lazada Online Revolution, the company continues to offer its customers the best holiday shopping experience as it reveals further markdowns, the hottest deals and crazy discounts in its 6-day Grand Christmas Sale finale.

Don’t miss this mega-sale event of the year where you are in for an even sweeter holiday treat on amazing deals for Tech, Fashion, Home & Living, Health & Beauty, Travel, Toys & Babies and more.

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Shop from the comfort of your homes and go online via Lazada.com.ph or boot up the Lazada mobile app and check out the wide array of the best product bargains, with prices up to 95% off.

Expect jaw-dropping and well-curated offers from popular branded items including a Lenovo Vibe 16GB phone for P4,499; Starmobile Engage Aura 14″ Cherry Trail Quad-Core Windows 10 laptop for P7,999; a Logitech Optical Mouse for P199; GoPro Hero5 HD Camera at P18,999; Bosch Impact Drill-DIY Tool Set at P2,499.

The 6-day grand shopping extravaganza will feature the most awaited limited-time flash sales, which include: Maybelline Rebel Collection lipsticks for only P149; Portable Car Vacuum cleaner for P99; an Ace 32” Slim LED TV for only P5,299; a Star Mobile Play Click 4GB with free P100 Load Card for only P999; and Ray-Ban aviators for only P2,999.

This year’s theme, “Brands for All,” brings exclusive products from top international and local brands including Samsung, Bosch, Cherry Mobile, JBL, Asus, Acer, Star Mobile, Canon, Lenovo, Platinum Karaoke, Bum Apparel, L’Oreal, Olay, Nestle, Pampers, MamyPoko, Watsons and Belo.

Here’s for December 7:

GRAND CHRISTMAS SALE
Flash Sale Schedule (December 7)
Timeslot Description SRP Flash Sale Price Discount
12:00 AM ACER Iconia One 7 B1-770 16GB WiFi Tablet 7,999 1,999 75%
ALEOCA 26″ Mountain Bike (Multiple Colors) 8,999 3,999 56%
Queen Double Plush Pillow 1,098 599 45%
9:00 AM AMERICAN TOURISTER Fountain Spinner 3-Piece Set Luggage (Multiple Colors) 20,450 8,799 57%
FUKUDA 3-Speed Blender FBL-158PIB 999 790 21%
MAMYPOKO Extra Dry Diaper Newborn- Pack of 52 525 315 40%
HP Deskjet 1112 2,500 888 64%
10:00 AM Open Face Safe and Convenient Motorcycle Helmet 1,699 499 71%
CHICCO Go Baby Carrier 1,900 999 47%
H9+ 4K 2MP 2″ 1080P Ultra HD WiFi Sports Action Camera   4,599 1,599 65%
PONY Women’s – New School 2,590 1,000 61%
12:00 PM NIVEA Bundle- Intensive Moisture Body Milk 125ml 199 79 60%
ACE 32″ Slim LED TV 9,999 5,299 47%
Fast Inflate Air Bed Lazy Sleeping Bed Folding Sofa/Chair (Multiple Colors) 1,999 299 85%
4-Piece Queen Size Bedding with Luxury Cotton Feel- Gardens of Fairies Series by Manhattan HomemakeR 1,400 499 64%
2:00 PM ACER Chromebook 11 C735-C7Y9 11.6″ HD Intel Celeron N2840 2GB 16GB EMMC Black Chrome OS  13,500 7,999 41%
CASIO Data Bank Men’s Gold Stainless Steel Strap Watch 4,250 1,299 69%
PUREIT Excella Water Purifier Filter 1500L 5,000 3,498 30%
PAMPERS Baby-dry Taped Diaper S 58 pc 420 336 20%
4:00 PM JANSPORT Superbreak Backpack (Multiple Designs) 1,990 999 50%
ST. IVES Blemish Control Apricot Face Scrub 10oz 249 125 50%
CHERRY MOBILE Revel 3G 8GB (Black) 2,999 1,699 43%
6:00 PM Christmas Tree 6ft. 210S (Dark Pine Green) 5,097 1,199 76%
MAYBELLINE Color Sensational Rebel Bouquet Lipstick 4.2g (Multiple Shades) 299 149 50%
Lazytech 4K WiFi Action Pro 16MP Sports Camera (Black) with Free Strontium Micro SD Class 10 16GB Card with Adapter (Black) 4,999 1,899 62%
SILVERWORKS Till I Met You Promise Ring 790 559 29%

 

With Christmas just around the corner and everyone hustles to finish their Christmas shopping, Lazada’s Grand Christmas Sale is your ultimate shopping paradise. Don’t miss out on these amazing bargains, and log-on now! Lucky shoppers also get a chance to win an Isuzu D-Max and Turkish Airlines international roundtrip tickets for a minimum purchase.

 

Visit www.lazada.com.ph or download the Lazada mobile app for free.

 

 

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About Lazada Online Revolution

The Lazada Online Revolution is the biggest online shopping and selling event in Southeast Asia bringing brands and retailers, and consumers together in six countries.

Lazada started the Online Revolution on 12 December 2012 (12.12) to educate consumers on online shopping and its conveniences. The one-day sale sparked a shopping frenzy that grew it into an annual month-long event.

Since then, Lazada Online Revolution has proven itself to be Southeast Asia’s busiest online retail event. In 2015, US$40 million in Gross Merchandize Value was recorded in its three-day finale.

Lazada Online Revolution 2016 will see big retail and marketing brands participate to create an unmatched assortment of popular, quality products, and the best deals for Southeast Asian consumers.

About Lazada Group

Lazada Group operates Lazada, Southeast Asia’s number one online shopping and selling destination, with presence in Indonesia (www.lazada.co.id), Malaysia (www.lazada.com.my), the Philippines (www.lazada.com.ph), Singapore (www.lazada.sg), Thailand (www.lazada.co.th) and Vietnam (www.lazada.vn).

Launched in March 2012, Lazada is pioneering eCommerce in the region by providing customers with an effortless shopping experience with multiple payment methods including cash-on-delivery, extensive customer care and easy returns. Lazada features a wide product offering in categories ranging from consumer electronics to household goods, toys, fashion and sports equipment.

Lazada offers brands and sellers a marketplace solution and an ecosystem of partners providing direct access to about 560 million consumers in six countries online.

Blabber Chapter: Reflections

My grandmother was buried the other day and yesterday, a ritual has been performed by the elders so that the family members can resume our lives, so to speak. I’ll talk more about that in a different post. 

These past few days, I haven’t mingled with anyone else except with family and relatives. And if there’s one thing that I have observed that got me dumbstruck because of being so obvious I haven’t realized it before is that: we are all control-freaks. LOL! Somehow, it was a trait that stood out from majority of the descendants of my grandmother. 

On a more serious note though, death in the family tests out the patience and brings out the solidarity of a family. I’ve seen how each and everyone pitched in to help during the wake. From overseeing the food, ensuring that there’s always hot coffee for the people who came to pay their respects, cleaning up and tidying the kitchens, running to the grocery and the wet market to get stuff needed, and even consoling each and everyone who suddenly felt the grief of losing out grandmother. We may not see each other all the time, we don’t get to spend time all together and only get to do so during family events, but at the end of the day, we all have each other’s backs. I’ve seen it, I’ve felt it, I was given that assurance. 

Family is such a beautiful thing. We all have our quirks that may be annoying to some but appealing to others. We dislike someone more than another but we still choose to be together. Those quirks are complemented by someone else’s quirks, too. I’ve learned to give in to a few demands but also stood my ground on others. There were situations that were awkward and annoying that we had to let slide, there were mistakes that we needed to let go, there were things that we agreed upon. 

Having been in a matriarchal clan for so long, I have seen the resilience of the women in our family. I have also seen how our male in-laws wholeheartedly gave their time and effort for the whole duration of the wake and never questioned or even asked for anything in return. I somehow saw a little bit of my grandmother in each and everyone of us. 

Death is indeed a time of sadness and grief. But at the same time, death is a celebration of life. My grandmother’s life was not an easy one but she loved all of us in her own way. Her death has brought upon an opportunity for all those who survived her to spend time with each other, to reminisce the memories we have and to strengthen the bond. 

Nobody welcomes you home so warmly like a family, even in death. 

Blabber Chapter: Running on Caffeine

December 1 – We are on the sixth day of my grandmother’s wake. Tomorrow, we say our final goodbyes as she will be laid to rest on her final resting place. She will be buried beside our grandfather who passed away almost 20 years ago. 

Anyway, since we arrived home last Sunday evening, I’ve been running on caffeine. And I think I am not the only one. My siblings and cousins and basically the direct descendants of my grandmother were all running on caffeine, too. Well, coffee drinking runs in the family, so to speak, so no surprise there. LOL!

Today, my aunt will be arriving. My grandmother’s children are complete. It will be a long day since it is going to be the last day. So many things to be done, so many stories to be heard. 

A handful of people are still here and I can hear them singing. It is good. As for me, the last coffee I drank is making me sleepy. Guess I need a few hours’ sleep to prepare for the multiple tasks ahead. 

Soon I will share a glimpse of the highland culture and traditions. I am learning a lot. For now, pardon my more or less incoherent thoughts. 

Okay, off to neverland for now. G’night, y’all!

Blabber Chapter: Life Passes…

I woke up early this evening from nap to find about 15 missed calls from family. My maternal grandmother, who has been confined in the hospital since last week, has passed away peacefully this afternoon. She was 89 years old.

Right now, I cannot still fully grasp the news. I guess growing up seeing and watching my Lola bounce back from everything, I was expecting her to bounce back to good health this time, too. But even the fact that she was no longer as strong as she was, I was actually hoping that we will get to see her and spend this year’s Christmas with her. The news that she has passed on is still a shock.

Life is indeed full of surprises. One day you’re great, the next day, you’re not. You’re happy on some days, you’re sad on other days. One day you’re laughing your heart out, the next day, you’re dead.

89 years is a long time. And I am glad that we were able to spend such a long time with our Lola. She may have not been a favorite but she was family and she was a great provider even to us, her apos, and I am forever grateful to her. I am glad that she got to know my son and was able to spend a couple of years watching him grow before I brought him to the big metro with me. She loved meeting new additions to the family. She valued family in her own special way.

I am still in a daze hours after learning the news of her passing. I have yet to start packing our things as we will be going home to be with family tomorrow. My mind is going blank. I still cannot believe that we won’t be going home this coming Christmas to find our Lola and hear her scold us for being out in the cold at night. I could not believe that I wouldn’t be seeing her toothless smile and shout my answers to her questions because she had a hard time hearing already. I couldn’t believe that I would no longer hear her say “Kaasyan daka ti Apo” (“God bless you”) whenever we would bless to her (as a respect to elders) when we arrive home and when we leave to go back to the big metro.

It is a sad day for the family indeed. However, we are happy that she is no longer suffering and no longer in pain. We know that she is now in a better place, getting reunited with our Creator and our Lolo who had passed away years ahead of her. We will truly miss her.

 

 

Mission Accomplished at the Alaska Ultimate Mission Camp

We were fortunate to have been invited to this year’s Alaska Ultimate Mission Camp. It was the first time that I have heard of this event and I was excited to bring the little boy to have fun and to experience this. Following the successful launch of the partnership between Alaska Milk and Disney last April, comes a new adventure and exciting missions for kids and the whole family:

The Alaska Ultimate Mission Camp is a one-day activity where kids, 4-10 years old, get to accomplish their own Disney Marvel and Frozen Missions. The missions will not only engage the children’s interest, but more importantly, incorporates educational activities that foster camaraderie among other kid participants.

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Are you ready?🙂

There were several mission zones that were fun and exciting, at the same time, kid-friendly and challenges that tested their speed, creativity, strength and agility.

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The little boy’s activity card

Since the little boy is still below the age of the major missions, there were activities that were also lined up for his age group:

First activity:

First activity: the coloring corner

Second Activity: Mask Cut-outs

Second Activity: Mask Cut-outs

Third Activity: Bricks and Blocks

Third Activity: Bricks and Blocks

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Fourth Activity: Alaska Tower Stacking

Fifth Activity: Memory Game

Fifth Activity: Memory Game

Sixth Activity: Face Painting

Sixth Activity: Face Painting

Unfortunately, the little boy didn’t want to have his face nor his arms or legs painted. However, they still stamped the little boy’s activity card, marking it completed.😀

For the older kids, for each mission zone, there was a height requirement for safety purposes:

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They also had a briefing session before starting their missions:

Briefing session ongoing with agent

Briefing session ongoing with agent

I was not able to get photos of the mission zones but for the Marvel zone, it has a “sticky wall” where kids can climb just like Spiderman. They also had a rollerblading challenge. The Frozen zone, on the other hand, had the ice-skating challenge. For the Alaska zone, the kids and parents alike got to watch a 360 Marvel and Frozen interactive presentation. We were not able to get into the dome but the little boy tried the ball pit outside it:

Little boy got a bit weird inside the ball pit :D

Little boy got a bit weird inside the ball pit😀

Meanwhile, the parents and guardians – and even other kids not wanting to continue the missions – got to enjoy a few other activities within the area as well. There was a cooking demonstration done by Chef Kaiser Padilla where he showed everyone how to make Malunggay (Moringa) Pancakes, a yummy and healthy breakfast that both kids and adults will surely enjoy.

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Chef Kaiser Padilla

He also taught kids how to decorate a cupcake using Alaska Crema:

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There was also a story-telling session that kids enjoyed:

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Story telling session

A cute coffee shop set-up by Krem-Top was at one corner where adults could enjoy either a Matcha cooler or coffee with Krem-Top:

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Other parents were also able to shop for Disney Marvel or Frozen items from the sponsors zone:

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There were so many activities that kids and adults alike got to enjoy which made the Alaska Ultimate Mission Camp truly the ultimate event for the whole family.

At the end of the missions, kids were given badges for completing the missions and a loot bag with lots of goodies from Alaska and Disney:

Little boy's loot!

Little boy’s loot!

It was a indeed a fun-filled afternoon and I was so glad that even the little boy enjoyed doing his missions. Looking forward to next year’s mission camp! The little boy needs to train more to prepare for the bigger mission zones.🙂

Thank you, Alaska, for coming up with a day full of activities that the whole family can enjoy!

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Here’s more information about Alaska Milk Corporation and Disney:

Alaska Milk Corporation and Disney Partnership

Alaska Milk Corporation’s mission to nourish and develop kids’ mind and body by encouraging healthy milk drinking habits, is made more fun by the by the partnership with Disney and its power to create happy and magical moments for kids and families.

The partnership started in April 2016 with the launch of the “Who will you be today?” campaign. It introduced the Alaska Ready To Drink milk for kids in Disney Frozen and Marvel Superheroes packaging designs for Alaska Choco, Alaska Sweet Milk, and Alaska Yoghurt Drinks.

Alaska has always been an advocate of healthy child development, as seen it its strong efforts to promote and ensure that every child gets proper nutrition. It makes sure that every pack of Alaska such as the Choco and Sweet Milk contains essential vitamins and nutrients that support kids’ active lifestyle. While the Alaska Yoghurt Drink promotes proper digestion as it contains naturally fermented good bacteria.

Now, these Alaska Ready To Drink Milk for kids come in Disney Frozen and Marvel packaging designs, with cut-out options to also encourage play among kids, on top of drinking healthy milk drinks.

Alaska Ready To Drink Milk for Kids in new Disney and Marvel is available in all leading grocery stores and supermarkets nationwide. Alaska Ready To Drink Milk has 4 flavors: Alaska Choco, Alaska Sweet Milk, Alaska Yoghurt Drinks.

About Alaska Milk Corporation:

For more details, visit www.alaskamilk.com and like Alaska Milk on Facebook.

About The Walt Disney Company in Southeast Asia (NYSE: DIS):

The Walt Disney Company has been active in Southeast Asia since 1995 when Disney Channel first launched in Malaysia and has grown to five offices in the region (Philippines, Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia and Vietnam) with the headquarters in Singapore, employing over 300 permanent staff. Disney is one of the most active and largest global entertainment companies in the region with diversified businesses in film, consumer products, publishing, mobile content, television and family entertainment overseeing content from six key brands: Disney, Pixar, Marvel, ESPN, ABC and Lucasfilm. 

Learning How To Be Mindful

I have been wanting to sign up for Mommy Mundo’s Mindful Moms Re-treat ever since it started. However, I always had conflict of schedules with the previous sessions. So when I saw the last run for this year, I grabbed the opportunity and signed up for the afternoon session because, being the nocturnal person that I am, I could not pull myself off the bed to move so early in the morning. LOL!

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I was so happy that I was able to attend because this is what I needed at this point in time as I am feeling burnt out already. I’ve been doing so much in so little time that I was no longer getting anything done at all. I’m already exhausted but I still keep pushing because at the back of my mind, I needed to do this. I think I programmed myself this way. LOL! But really, this was the breather that I needed.

Back when I was still single (I mean, not yet a Mom), I was spending way too much time at work but afterwards, I would spend so much on myself – massage spa sessions, lots and lots of coffee sessions, drinking sessions on weekends, random and impulsive shopping and all that. Those activities seem so normal that I’ve never really given it much thought. I had the resources and I had the time so why not, right? But when I became a Mom, I no longer find time to do these really simple things. My days are now divided between my job, my son, my household and all other myriads of things that I needed to take care of. I have been working myself too much I have already been feeling the stress getting to me and could no longer be ignored.

Let’s admit it, being a Mom, we always want to give our everything to our family. Unfortunately, we always forget to leave a little something for ourselves. We worry about our kids too much, we always make sure that our family is properly fed and dressed, we always give them the things that they deserve, we always make sure our houses are clean and tidy and organized and worthy of an Instagram post, we manage the family’s finances, we train the house helps to do certain things that way we wanted things to be done and if it is not to our satisfaction, we re-do all the things they did while muttering under our breath that we are wasting our time. LOL! This may or may not be an exaggeration but really, once we become a Mom, we tend to be perfectionists. Right? And not only that, we have mastered being a multitasking perfectionist.

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But there lies the first issue. In the midst of juggling all the million little things that we’ve set to accomplish, where do we leave ourselves? Do we have time to dedicate just for us, moms? Do we give ourselves a few minutes to just breathe and smell the roses, so to speak? To listen to our own thoughts and not thinking about the list of to-do things that we have yet to tick off the list?

Why are we in a hurry? 

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This was a powerful quote that made an impact to me personally. For the past several years, I have forgotten to slow down. I always have this invisible timeline that I needed to follow – a timeline that was actually impossible to stick to since I never gave myself room for delays. Unfortunately, the more that I try to do the things in my list, I never accomplished anything in a manner that I wanted those things to be done. In short, I was always in a hurry, I was always cramming, I had plan A but always wanted to have plans B to Z as back ups, just in case plan A messes up (which really doesn’t, 98% of the time). I have been creating unnecessary stress for myself and it doesn’t help the people around me. Why was I hurrying? It was a question asked during the workshop. Why, indeed? Damn if I knew.

Of image and perfection

I mentioned perfection. As Moms, we never want to hear any negative feedback from anyone else regarding anything that would reflect back to us. We always want to have that picture-perfect-all-clean-and-sparkly house, perfectly dressed kids, perfectly prepared meals. We always aim for perfection for everything that we do for our family. And then we see someone else being better at what we do and then we ask, “how to be you?”. We envy people that do better housekeeping that we do, dresses their kids to the nines for just a walk in the park and all that (yes, exaggeration, but you get the picture). And then we try to emulate those people and when we fail, we penalize ourselves for failing. But one thing we forget is that every person has something they are good at and there are things that they are not good at. This applies to moms, too. Instead of asking how to be someone else, why can’t we ask ourselves how to be us instead? Why don’t we try to see the things that we are good at and give ourselves a pat on the back for being good at something?

As they say, no one is perfect. So as individuals, we have to accept that we are not perfect, that there are things that we are not good at, that some people are better at some things than we are. And if we learn to accept our own imperfections, it will be easier to be mindful and tolerant about the imperfections of our family and other people or circumstances.

Why are we setting very high standards for ourselves anyway that, at the back of our minds, we know that we will fail?

Going back to square one

Back in high school, we had to write an essay entitled, “Who am I?”. Back then, I thought it was just an activity. This should be a question that we ask ourselves every so often to gauge where we are in life. When I was not yet a Mom, I didn’t really think of asking myself  this question. There were a few times that I did but pushed it back to the darkest corners of my brain. And I think by doing so, I started to lose a little bit of myself in the process. There was a time when all I knew was work and trying to build a career that even my Mom was worrying about me. She kept on scolding me and reminding me that I am not a machine.

We need to spend some time to get to know ourselves. To reconnect, to touch base, to ask ourselves if we are still okay. Being a Mom is already tough so let’s not make it a lot tougher by forgetting who we are and trying to emulate other people’s lives. We really won’t be happy in the end.

I once come across a quote that says, “Learn to love yourself for you to be able to love others.” Or something to that effect. If we don’t know how to love ourselves, how can we say that we love others? How can we say that we love our kids, our husbands, our family, our friends, when we don’t even know how to love ourselves?

What now?

We need to stop, take in a deep breath, sit back, relax and smell the roses. Even if that would only be for 5 minutes. Leave the pile of laundry, leave the dishes in the sink and go for a walk or get a manicure and/or pedicure. Go get that well-deserved massage. Get your hair done. If you have the budget, go buy something for yourself and not feel guilty about it.

We need to learn how to not feel guilty for giving ourselves a well-deserved treat once in a while. We need to learn how not to lose ourselves in all the checklists that we have. Once in a while, we need to take off the Mommy hat and wear the Me hat so we can reconnect with who we really are. We need to learn to appreciate our strengths and not dwell on what we are not good at. We need to give ourselves a pat on the back for achieving even the smallest of accomplishment because after all, it is still an accomplishment. Let’s learn to be easy on ourselves. We make mistakes, yes, but we need not crucify ourselves for not being able to cook a perfect omelet in the morning. Besides, we know how to perfectly iron that white uniform that our kids wear to school. As Scarlet O’Hara said in Gone With The Wind, “After all… tomorrow is another day”. We have tomorrow to practice and hone the skills that we want to learn and be good at. But we also need to remember to stop comparing ourselves to others. Because nothing good will ever come out of it anyway.

How? 

At the end of the workshop, we were given a homework. Three vision boards that will help determine who we are for us to appreciate what we have and what we are capable of, what we want to achieve, and what are plans will be. Apart from that, I have been reviewing the activity sheets that we have done during the workshop and trying to list down more and making a clearer picture of what my roadblocks are, what I envision for my family, who am I at this point in time and I am including the changes from who I thought I was before.

The workshop has actually given me a starting point and I am now trying to find me again in all the chaos of my everyday life. It’s not going to be an easy process. It will be a long, painful and tedious process but I know and I truly believe that if I am able to finish this, I will be able to handle everything else in a better way.

Right now, I am trying to answer the question, “how to be me?” instead of “how to be you?”. I am listing down the things that I am good at because it seems that I am good at something. I am trying to spend a few minutes just to stare at the ceiling thinking of nothing when I wake up. I am starting to set realistic goals for each week. And I am now trying to find time to spend with just myself – not thinking about work, not thinking about finances, not thinking about housework, but just thinking about me.

 

The Mindful Moms Re-treat has given more than what I expected. So many learnings, so many realizations, so many opportunities that I was able to take away from the 3-hour session. And I would definitely recommend this to every Moms out there. Because, seriously, we all need this!🙂

With Ms. Ichel Santos Aglinay - Registered Guidance Counselor and Parenting, Relationship, and Family Life Specialist and one of Mommy Mundo's resident experts who facilitated the workshop

With Ms. Ichel Santos Aglinay – Registered Guidance Counselor and Parenting, Relationship, and Family Life Specialist and one of Mommy Mundo’s resident experts who facilitated the workshop